Extinguishing Vices, Growing Virtues

Contained in every life advancement or achievement, there is both a “no” and a “yes” involved. If I want to compete in a triathlon, I must say “no” to lazy Saturday mornings and I must say “yes” to scheduled training. If I want to spend more time with my friends, I must say “no” to useless time sucks and “yes” to carving out intentional planning. If I want to keep an organized home, I must say “no” to clutter and “yes” to consistent cleaning and purging routines.

Virtue works the same way. Virtue involves a “no” to sin. But it can’t stop there. Because as frail humans, we can easily drift into the dangerous waters of sin through the coaxing currents of adaptation. If we refuse a particular sin, but don’t work to cultivate its opposite virtue, then eventually our culture, our flesh, or even our friends and family may gradually contribute to temptation that can lead us to fall into the very sin we thought we were safe from committing.

Virtue, then, must also involve a “yes” to something greater than sin. Virtue seeks not only to avoid the illness of sin but to also formulate a vaccine for its future prevention.

If I want to eradicate lust in my life, I must say “no” to impure behavior and other triggers for my lust, and “yes” to prayers for purity, accountability, and inspiration from the Saints. If I want to leave anger behind, I must say “no” to faulty relationship or circumstantial boundaries and “yes” to prayers for my enemies and opportunities to grow in patience and humility. If I want to be rid of greed or jealousy, I must say “no” to that which causes me to seek the lavishes of this world and produces discontentment in my heart and “yes” to practicing gratitude throughout the day.

Actively seeking virtue may sometimes lead to the division Christ references in today’s Gospel. But it is also what will lead to the sanctification and happiness Saint Paul promises in the First Reading. Spending eternity with Christ is worth the sacrifice of sin and earthly comforts for the discipline and rewards of virtue. Gaining Him is everything.

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Sisters, how can we actively grow in virtue today? What will you say “no” to? What will you say “yes” to?

Olivia Spears is a middle school religion teacher turned SAHM who is married to her high school best friend. You can find out more about her here.


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    October 26, 2017 at 1:18 am

    I will say no to anger and yes to humility, patience and understanding

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      Olivia Spears
      October 26, 2017 at 5:14 pm


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    October 26, 2017 at 9:17 am

    What a great reflection. I have a lot of trouble going into excess, so today I will be praying for temperance. Thank you!

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      Olivia Spears
      October 26, 2017 at 5:15 pm

      Praying for you today!

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    October 26, 2017 at 1:02 pm

    Today I will look at the life I’ve been blessed with rather than the life of others that I seem to be jealous of.

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      Olivia Spears
      October 26, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      Ohhh such a great perspective, Denise!

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    October 26, 2017 at 3:19 pm

    Today I will work with what I have, and not look to change it to my own desires.

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      Olivia Spears
      October 26, 2017 at 10:42 pm

      “I will work with what I have” – that brought tears to my eyes, Lissa! I’ll be chewing on this for days.

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    Mary Lou
    October 26, 2017 at 4:19 pm

    I will say no to comfort and yes to prayer time

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      Olivia Spears
      October 26, 2017 at 10:51 pm

      Amen, Mary Lou!

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    October 26, 2017 at 10:28 pm

    I will say no to anxiety and yes to trusting in God.

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    Nicole Peters
    October 26, 2017 at 11:52 pm

    Tonight I am saying no to anger and anxiety and yes to seeking peace through prayer and scripture. Thank you Olivia.

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