How to Practice the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy as a Family - Blessed Is She

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Throughout the Gospels, Jesus instructs us to care for one another out of love for Him. The Golden Rule, the second greatest commandment, and the example of Christ Himself drive this very point home: we are meant to serve one another. Catholic tradition gives us a beautiful roadmap of how to do this in the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy.

In the context of the family, a major part of our duty as parents in handing on the Truth of the Gospel is to hand on the practice of serving others. We do this by teaching our children about the Works of Mercy, encouraging them to practice them, and perhaps most importantly, living them ourselves.

As Mothers, We Live the Works of Mercy Each Day in Our Homes

It’s easy to sometimes feel like motherhood isn’t compatible with true Christian Works of Mercy. After all, not many of us are able to manage the kind of charitable activities that our sisters called to single life or religious vocations might be able to do.

I have never once visited a prison. I’ve never brought the Gospel to lands faraway. I’ve never handed out sandwiches to the homeless from the back entrance of my house.

It Looks Different…

Because of our station in life, mothers who aren’t really able to perform these acts of mercy ourselves could support those who do both:

financially, and
with our prayers.

That’s important. We should totally do this.

But also, we live these Works of Mercy in our homes...as part of our vocation and job. In fact, I hardly do anything but that stuff.

So, moms, we do live the Works of Mercy in our daily lives, even if they don’t seem as heroic as we envision.

Being Merciful More Intentionally as a Family

But if you’re looking for ways to stretch your soul and the charity of your family members, there are certainly ways you can live the Works of Mercy as a family.

Practicing the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy is a good spiritual lesson for our children and is a worthy task for us to undertake together.

Don’t worry if you’re not sure where or how to start serving with your family; I have some ideas.

These can be done as a family, or by individual members of the family according to age and ability.

Some will be pretty easy to check off once, but hopefully kids and grownups will be inspired to practice mercy again and again.

How to Live the Corporal Works of Mercy as a Family

Feed the hungry

volunteer at a soup kitchen
make sandwiches and hand them out to homeless people
bring a meal to a family with a new baby
bring a meal to a family having a difficult time
share food with a friend or sibling
make dinner for your family
throw a dinner party for friends you don’t think could afford a nice dinner
don’t throw a dinner party and donate the money you would have spent
eat beans and rice for a week and donate your grocery money

Give drink to the thirsty

give water to someone working in your neighborhood
set up a lemonade stand and donate the money you make
give out water bottles at an event on a hot day

Clothe the naked

clean out your closets and donate your unneeded clothing
organize a charity clothing drive
offer to help sort clothing at your local pregnancy resource center
do the laundry for your family
help a younger sibling get dressed

Visit the imprisoned (people can often feel imprisoned in ways other than being in jail)

visit an imprisoned friend or family member
write a letter to an imprisoned friend or family member
visit a nursing home, or a lonely member of your parish
offer to babysit for a mother of all young children
offer to babysit a younger sibling for your mom

Shelter the homeless

donate food or blankets to a homeless shelter
donate to disaster relief services
take in a foster child
take in a needy relative
help an elderly neighbor with home repairs

Visit the sick

visit a friend or family member in the hospital
visit a nursing home
look after a sick member of your family at home
help an old or sick person with errands or chores

Bury the dead

go to a funeral (yes, even kids)
visit a cemetery and put flowers on graves
learn about your ancestors

How to Live the Spiritual Works of Mercy as a Family

Admonish the sinner

set a good example
remind a sibling or friend of the rules
offer to bring a friend or family member to Confession
have a calm and loving chat with a person with whom you have a relationship about a particular sinful behavior

Instruct the ignorant

teach a catechism class
share a helpful article or blog post in a friendly way
lend a good book
be an RCIA sponsor or a godparent
help a sibling read a book, play a game, or learn a prayer

Counsel the doubtful

learn the teachings of the Catholic Church so you’ll have the answer if you get asked a question
pray outside an abortion clinic
be there to listen to a friend and give good advice
reach out to a friend you think might need good advice
help a sibling or friend make the right choice

Comfort the sorrowful

visit a friend or family member who is having a difficult time
send someone a sympathy card or a care package
remember the anniversary of a friend’s miscarriage or loss of a child or spouse
read a story or sing a song to a sibling who is feeling sad

Bear wrongs patiently

don’t get mad at other drivers
assume the best of people you encounter in real life and online
give up a toy that a friend or sibling wants to play with, even though you had it first
don’t gossip about the bad behavior of others
don’t tattle

Forgive all injuries

forgive a grudge you’ve been holding, even if it was someone else’s fault
call or write to an estranged friend or family member
give a friend or sibling a second chance

Pray for the living and the dead

visit a cemetery, especially in November
keep a list of prayer intentions
say a family Rosary
pray a Divine Mercy Chaplet for those who will die this day
pray the Prayer of St. Gertrude for the souls in Purgatory
choose a family in your community and dedicate an entire week to praying for them

Printable Checklist for Your Family

We created this free printable for you, so each member of the family can keep track of each of his works of mercy.

Hang it on your fridge, tuck it into school folders or homeschool planners, store it in your car, or carry it in your purse. That way, when you’re presented with the time to practice the Works of Mercy as a family, you’ll have a list of fresh and doable ideas on hand.

A Deeper Dive into The Works of Mercy

Finally, if this post has piqued your curiosity about the Works of Mercy, Blessed is She has a study all about them. I helped write Misericordia, and it was so inspiring to research the Works of Mercy and examples for the female Saints who lived them so beautifully and differently.

Hopefully, this study will help deepen your understanding of and commitment to the Works of Mercy.

This study could be done individually or with a small group. Moms of adult daughters, consider doing this study with them! It would be an awesome way to hand on the Works of Mercy to your family in a way that can really bond you and your girls in this phase of life!

Do you practice the Works of Mercy in your family? What ideas would you add to the lists above?

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About Kendra Tierney Norton

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Kendra Tierney Norton is grateful to be a wife, mother, and stepmother. She lives in the wilds of unincorporated Los Angeles County in a big old fixer-upper house with her husband and a varying number of their combined fourteen children, plus one fish, two cats, and twenty chickens. She likes to say that her goal is keeping Catholicism weird. To that end, she is the author of books including the Catholic All Year Compendium: Liturgical Living for Real Life with Ignatius Press and O Come, Emmanuel: Advent Reflections on the Jesse Tree for Families with Emmaus Road Publishing, the creator of the TV series Catholic All Year At Home on FORMED, and the CEO of Catholic All Year, an apostolate dedicated to helping parents live out their Catholic faith and pass it along to their children.