The Sisterhood Series: Competition and Support

Dear Sisters,

Happy Feast Day of the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary, the Queen of Heaven and Earth and the most humble & supportive woman ever to have walked the earth!

Welcome to the Sisterhood Series: an eight-part email series for you, every two weeks, just for you, about how to live deeper in sisterhood with our sisters in Christ, based on the wisdom of our Catholic faith.

I’m talking today about competition & support. 

Even the humblest heart among us struggles with that greatest of all deadliest sins: P R I D E! Pride! The very root of so many of our sins. 

The Catholic encyclopedia defines pride as “excessive love of one’s own excellence” and jealousy is thinking that some one’s excellence take away from our own excellence. 

A friend announced a new project she was working on and before the words had even finished escaping her smiling mouth, I thought to myself, Well, I can see why she’d pursue that but really I have a ton of ideas I’d like to do too around my house and if she had all the extra stuff I’ve had going on, maybe she wouldn’t be so on top of things. #pettymuch?

This happens with our friends! With our dearest loved ones! The promotion at work, the announcement of yet another desired pregnancy when our test lines are single, the handsome boyfriend who happens to also want to go to Adoration with her, the workout program that “worked.”

When I stopped my own awful stream of thoughts, nodded, and said a few nice things to my friend, I gave myself a chance to breathe it all in.

She was pursuing HER gifts. Not stealing mine. 

Sisterhood can only start when we are no longer in competition. When there’s no finite amount of talent God’s doled out already to the somehow deserving and then we got in the back of the wrong line, leaving empty-handed. 

Fight pride and jealousy, sisters. Fight them with me. Don’t hide or stifle them. Draw them out into the light. Examine, question, probe, and then let the air out of the balloon. 

God’s magnificent and bewildering plan for our lives may not (most likely will not) unfold in our timing. He created us to be in close, loving, and supportive relationships with one another so that we may all magnify Him, together, with the unique gifts we have been given.

So that we may be a choir in harmony, not one discord noise over the other. 

  • First step: remember you are living your one and only beautiful life.
  • Second step: remember to praise God Who gave this life and these gifts to you.
  • Third step: show support (even if you have to fake it until you make it) of your sisters’ successes.
  • Fourth step: continue to unearth who you are, which parts of God you were created to reflect.
  • Fifth step: give thanksgiving for His mercies and take the sin of pride to the Sacrament of Confession.
  • Sixth step: love more freely, fling open your heart to your sisters around you.

Let’s pray the Surrender Prayer together this weekend, sisters. Turning over our fears, insecurities, and anxieties about not being enough and needing competition to elevate our self-worth to Him Who created us in tender loving joy.

Praying with you,


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