Entrusting Our Children to God as They Grow

In her deep anguish, Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly. And she made a vow, saying:

Lord Almighty, if you will only look on your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head. -1 Samuel 1:10-11


In the midst of infertility, I found myself on my knees praying the words that Hannah prayed centuries before, though I skipped the part about the razor. I was twenty-six and I wasn’t exactly sure what I was promising. But still, I meant it. The truth of it shook me right there on my knees, on a worn bedroom carpet, my teary eyes gazing at the pattern of the quilt on my bed. I remember that I shuddered a bit before standing up. I had made an irrevocable vow, and I knew it.

Keeping My Promise

When my son was born about a year later, I was intentional about understanding and owning my beliefs in order to pass Truth on to him, and I found that faith was much bigger and more colorful than I’d been taught. Once I met Jesus, I was all-in on gaining relationship with Him and on raising my son up to God, just as I’d promised.

My mother knew my son was special from the start. She had a gift of prophecy that was sometimes eerily correct and sometimes laughably wrong. But she always thought my son would live a big life, and that he’d tell lots of people about God. She never said what form that role might take, but it was something I believed as my son grew to be a four-year-old who built Bible scenes with blocks and figurines and made plans to open a free store for anyone who needed help.

Once, during quiet prayer with my husband, my son answered a question aloud that my husband had been silently asking God in his mind with complete understanding and specificity. God was talking and my son was listening.

Did I Fulfill My Vow?

Like Jesus in the Gospel of Luke, my son grew in wisdom, age, and grace. After high school, he started at the small Catholic college where my husband works and which had become a spiritual home.

We rejoiced at the goodness of God. Surely I had completed the work of my vow. I raised my son up to God the best I could and then delivered him into the hands of Jesus and His Mother on the campus of that special school where he’d find the work of his hands. My work was done, my promise fulfilled.

I was wrong.

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Not My Plan, But His Merciful Love

In the second year of college, things fell apart for my beloved son in a way I could never have anticipated. It affected his life and ours in every way you can imagine. The months that followed were a rollercoaster of concern, contingency, worry, and questioning.

On my knees, I cried out to God, literally sobbing, yelling, and what my Irish ancestors would call keening. There was begging and negotiating and helping and misunderstanding and there was no peace. We were missing each other completely as our once-close relationship soured. I was at the end of my faith, begging God to finally help, to intercede, to rescue us. I had done my part and I was angry that God was not doing His.

His Beloved Son

Things are different now by the grace of God. My son is standing on his own, but this child’s road is not at all what I thought it would be. You might be wondering where the bravery is in this story that’s so filled with agony, dashed hopes, hysterics, and pain. During each one of those terrible days that stretched through almost two years of suffering, I knew that what God was calling me to was to let go of my son, finally and completely in submission and trust to His will. And I couldn’t do it.

I’d often say that if my son ran off a cliff, then I’d go over with him, because how can you ever separate yourself from your child, even when he’s begging you to do it? Even when it’s God’s most primary call on your life?

God’s Not the Babysitter

As my son prepared to move out on his own last month, I’d imagine myself in prayer at the door of the Father’s house with my baby boy in my arms. I had a list of instructions as you’d have for a babysitter and as Jesus stretched out His arms, I’d shrink back and say, “Oh, please, please don’t drop him. Don’t let him fall.”

And God couldn’t promise me that my son wouldn’t fall. But He did promise that he’d never ever be alone. It wasn’t enough for me. I held him tighter. As I continued in prayer, God reminded me that my son had a big mission and that everything that had happened, though it’s so hard to believe at times, was part of that plan. In order for my son to live the life he was called to live, I had to let him go. There was no choice in the matter.

My Son’s Mother

In my mind’s eye, Mary, the Mother of God, was standing behind her Son. Jesus pointed to her and said that Mary would mother my son as her own. She’d hold him in her protection, feed him what he most needed to take in, cleanse him from the pain of the past, teach him the things he needed to learn, and show him how to walk on his own two feet. She’d be his mother as he grew into the calling that God had for him.

In my prayer, I sighed and wrapped up my precious baby boy who holds my heart and my hopes and dreams. I kissed him on the forehead, looked into his eyes, and handed him to God, who loves him even more than I do, and I walked out the door. I gave my son to the Lord for all of his days, just as I promised I would all those years ago.

Entrusting my child to Jesus through Mary was the hardest and bravest thing I’ve ever done.

Any mothers of adult children out there? How has this reality played out in your own life and motherhood?

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Written by Kerry Campbell. You can find out more about her here.

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    February 6, 2020 at 10:47 am

    Wow – I am reading this 2 days before I go to help my son move again – and once again it is not closer to home but further. God knew I needed to read this – that I need to give my son over to His Son and his Blessed Mother and know that he will be in no better hands. Thank you for this! ❤️

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    February 7, 2020 at 12:46 pm

    This was so moving to read. I have a daughter that is 11 and as she grows up, the more anxious I get. I have suffered with anxiety over her well being for a few years now and I think reading this helped me recognize that my daughter is here for a purpose as well…and it’s not to be over protected. Thank you for sharing this…I especially found it helpful to know that God is not a babysitter….

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    February 8, 2020 at 4:34 pm

    I am entering a new stage of parenting as my oldest son turned 18 in October and plans to move away to college next year. Over the holidays, the anxiety of it all almost took me under…it certainly robbed my joy. I kept asking people, “How do I do this part?” Thank you for sharing your heart. It gives me hope that even if things get hard(Er), God loves him more…I am not his savior…Jesus and Mary have him.

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