Chasing Dreams: Whatever It Takes?

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A friend of mine thinks if someone has a dream, they would do whatever it takes to make it happen.

That perspective made me tired. Or maybe I am tired and more likely to pursue sleeping dreams than the do-whatever-it-takes kind. While I would give anything for the people in my life, I can’t say the same for my pursuits.

The Cost of Pursuit

I don’t lack ambition or commitment, either. If anything, I am guilty of skepticism for thinking this mentality is part of the happily-ever-after notion of dreams hawked by Hollywood movie makers.

But I am not really that cynical. I love people who are passionate about their goals. I admire the tenacity it takes to get to the proverbial “there,” to arrive, to live the dream. My favorite is an underdog, a comeback story, and an against-the-odds fight.

I am just not sure I want to be one.

Somewhere between the dream and the reality is the cost of pursuit. Whether in commerce or in life, we all have a price we are willing to pay to get what we want. Not all of us are willing to personify Rocky Balboa for the sake of our dreams no matter how much we admire a steely resolve to persevere and a cool moniker like “Italian Stallion.”

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Jesus Paid the Price

I don’t know if Jesus had a dream, yet He paid the ultimate price for our redemption, which from a Faith perspective makes the reality of Heaven possible for humanity. Dying on the Cross is the epitome of doing whatever it takes. The cost was high, but the payoff of having His children with Him in Heaven was worth it because He loves us. It’s astounding.

Jesus was the consummate underdog ministering to tax collectors, fishermen, and prostitutes only to become the King of Kings. He became the comeback story of all time when He rose from the dead. The redemption of mankind is undoubtedly the biggest against-the-odds fight in the history of humanity.

I can’t think of anyone more inspiring, more willing to do whatever it takes, than Jesus. And love made it possible. Jesus commanded us to love one another. He didn’t dream it. It’s not a proposition but a passion He placed in our hearts.

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Chasing the Dream, the Eternal Dream

Maybe I am lost in the semantics of the word dream, the imagery it conjures of a thousand self-help books selling the idea as the end-all, be-all, the pinnacle, summit, and apex of complete self-actualization. But I just can’t get into it. We are created to love and serve God. That’s not a dream, and in no way is that meant to dash anybody else’s dreams. It’s just a perspective on the proper order of things.

My Dreams…

My dreams matter to me, but I am not willing to do whatever it takes to make them happen.

I wish a great many things for my own life, for the people I love, and for humanity. I believe in pursuing talents and purpose and living authentically.

But only for love am I willing to do whatever it takes. I would rather follow the truth of Love than the dare of a dream. The cost is inevitably high, but the reward of Heaven is beyond the wildest of dreams.

How about you? What are your thoughts on pursuing dreams no matter the cost?

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Lara Patangan is a freelance writer and mother of two boys. She is currently working on publishing her first book about her mid-life mission to do works of mercy. You can find out more about her here.

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    January 1, 2019 at 5:09 pm

    I loved the was you described that Jesus did whatever it took for us. I have finally come to the realization that I need to do whatever it takes to make sure I live as He wants me to live. I have dreams and goals, but now I know that the REAL goal is doing whatever it takes to meet the Lord when the time comes. I’ve been a catholic all my life and it has only been in the last 3 years, since my Dad’s passing, that I have begun a closer relationship to God and my faith. I am so grateful to Blessed is She for all of the beautiful blog posts that you share.

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      Lara Patangan
      January 4, 2019 at 5:31 pm

      Adriana – I love and share your REAL goal. To me, focusing on that helps me to keep everything else in proper perspective. I am sorry about the loss of your dad and am also grateful for this beautiful community on Blessed is She where we can share our faith and encourage one another. Thank you!

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    Tuti Gomoka
    January 3, 2019 at 12:35 am

    Lara, I do not think I agree with what you are saying. God also gives us gifts and talents and a specific purpose on this world. I believe everyone has a unique purpose and talent on this world and it is very very important to pursue them, especially for women. I say especially for women because I believe that we live in a world where women’s potential is deeply lacking in many areas such as business, ministry, medicine, law, politics etc. I thus think that everyone should have a dream and indeed we should work very hard to make it happen. What you are saying is very simplified and quite frankly pretty lazy because I feel like you have a lot of potential in you to do a lot but you are choosing not to.

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      Lara Patangan
      January 4, 2019 at 5:44 pm

      Tuti – it’s not that I think people shouldn’t pursue their dreams. It’s just for me, I am not willing to do whatever it takes to get to the proverbial ‘there.’ I agree very much that we all have unique God-given talents and ways to share them with the world. II certainly try to do that through my writing and volunteer pursuits. But I am also a wife, mother, daughter, friend and have to consider the responsibilities I have to those roles as I pursue my own dreams. I don’t think it has to be an either/or nor an all or nothing. For me, I am trying to find that balance — maybe that’s my dream 🙂 I think it’s like the saying that a woman can have it all just not all at the same time. Right now, the season of my life prioritizes husband and kids. And yes! yes! yes! to more women in those areas you mentioned!

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