Growing up, when Lent rolled around, Friday dinners were always bean and cheese burrito nights. Now, I’m not complaining! Feeding a family of nine is never an easy task. However, having the same thing every Friday during Lent can also be tough. Friday Meals for Families During Lent While still keeping in mind that Fridays without meat are an act of penance, I’ve put together some meal ideas to help keep things fresh and interesting at the kitchen table. Pizza Night Instead of ordering in from your favorite pizza place (although I’ll admit that’s my every Friday night go-to), get some mini premade pizza crusts from the store and have a “Make Your Own Pizza” night. Get the sauce, cheese, veggies of choice and let everyone in the family create their meal! Bonus: it gives kids ownership over their meal and they are much more likely to clean their plate. Quinoa Enchilada Casserole I remember making this for Lent last year and it was such a hit with the kids! Enchilada casserole is always a good meal to make for a family (hello leftovers!). But without meat, it can feel like just a lot of sauce and cheese. That’s where the quinoa comes in! By itself, quinoa is a bit bland. But mixing it in with this casserole is amazing. Plus, quinoa has a lot of protein, so your meal can still be fairly balanced. Click here for an awesome recipe. Breakfast for Dinner I think we’ve all done some variation of breakfast for dinner in a pinch, right? My kids love cereal nights (definitely a by-product of failed meal planning). But let’s turn it up a notch from Frosted Flakes, shall we? I’m talking about quiche! It is very simple to put together a delicious quiche, especially when you can use the already made pie crust from the store. Give this recipe a try and maybe add some roasted potatoes as a side dish! Tuna Salad I just heard a big “whomp whomp” in the background as I typed that. The fact of the matter is that tuna saves me a lot of heartache (an stomachache) during Lent as I scramble around trying to figure out what to give my kids for protein on meatless days. I found this delicious recipe that’s a delightful spin of both pasta salad and tuna salad. I would serve this Mediterranean Tuna Pasta Salad with lots of fresh fruit as a side. Ramen When you hear the word “ramen,” if you’re immediately taken back to your college days, it’s time to rethink everything. Well, maybe not everything. However, actual ramen is way better than what you zap in the microwave. Within the past year, I’ve added it to our meal rotation because the kids really enjoy it. While I have yet to try a full vegetarian recipe, I plan on trying this one this Lent! Tostadas Similar to the “Make Your Own Pizza” idea above, you can do a “Tostada Bar” with your family! My one tip would be to make sure you are buying the vegetarian refried beans. There are so many things to add to your tostadas: avocado, cheese, pico de gallo, purple cabbage, etc. Now, I have my tostadas with the extra tortillas my Grandma uses after making tacos. Since not everyone has a Grandma Sylvia (love you, Grandma!), this recipe seems simple for achieving the end goal of deliciousness. Share Your Favorite Meatless Meals for Families During Lent I hope these ideas are helpful for you and your family! I’ve been on a bit of a health kick, so if you have any questions about substitutions for certain ingredients, please reach out. If you have any family favorite Lenten meals, please put them in the comments below (and include a recipe if you can) so that we can really expand this list. I am praying that you all have a fruitful Lent and that you are drawn closer to our Lord during this time of penitence and reflection. [bctt tweet="Friday Meals for Families During Lent #BISblog //" username="susana_starbuck"]   Susana Starbuck is a regular contributor to the BIS blog. She is wife of a youth minister and mother to four littles five and under. She lives in Phoenix, AZ and enjoys reading a good book, posting her highlight reel on Instagram, and drinking wine. You can connect with her here.

I recognized their names from the Roman Canon, but it wasn’t until daily Mass one March 7th that the priest brought Sts. Perpetua and Felicity to life before the eyes of my heart. His words transformed the wooden pews of the church around me into a vision of the prison in Carthage in the year 203. I saw the walls that held these holy young Catechumens before their martyrdoms. How was it, I wondered, that the lives of two women who died over 1,800 years ago feel so profoundly relevant to me? Here lies what I find to be one of the most beautiful aspects of our Catholic Faith. In the Communion of Saints, nothing—not time in history, location, race, circumstance, wealth, or vocation-—an hold us back from learning and drawing inspiration from those who have fought the good fight before us. Learning from Sts. Perpetua and Felicity So what can modern Catholic women learn from two third-century martyrs? Plenty. We are called to loyalty to Christ even before loyalty to our loved ones. Like many of our own families today, Perpetua’s family was divided in their beliefs. Her mother was a Christian, but her father was a pagan. When he pleaded desperately for Perpetua to renounce her newfound Faith, knowing it would put her life in danger, she gracefully responded: Father...do you see this vessel lying, a pitcher or whatsoever it may be? Can it be called by any other name than that which it is? So can I call myself nought other than that which I am, a Christian. St. Perpetua knew wholeheartedly that her identity was solely in Christ. Her loyalty was to Jesus who saved her, even before loyalty to the father who raised her, provided for her throughout her life, and truly loved her and wanted what he believed to be the best for her. She wasn’t heartless toward her father. Rather, she repeats again and again in her diary that she grieved for him, knowing that he would not rejoice in her death without the promise of salvation that she rested in so confidently. While not expressly stated in her account, I can only imagine how many hours St. Perpetua spent praying for her father in the final days of her life. [bctt tweet="Do you see this vessel lying...? Can it be called by any other name than that which it is? So can I call myself nought other than that which I am, a Christian. -St. Perpetual #BISblog //" username="lisajanelkirk"] Any situation can be transformed by love. Few settings sound more dire than the third-century dungeon where Sts. Perpetua and Felicity and their companions spent their final days. It was so packed with people, there was barely room to move. The heat was stifling from the crowd. The guards treated the prisoners cruelly. It was so dark that St. Perpetua claims she “had never known such darkness.” Most of all, though, she was tormented by her separation from her son, a baby or young child who was not yet weaned. Eventually, St. Perpetua was granted permission to nurse her son, brought to her by her mother and brother. More than the escape from the crowd and the oppressive heat, holding her child is what brought Saint Perpetua relief. She wrote, “...I became well and was lightened of my labor and care for the child; and suddenly the prison was made a palace for me, so that I would sooner be there than anywhere else.” While we may never experience so drastic a situation as a prison turned to a palace, we can transform the situations in which we feel trapped, discontent, rejected, or alone by focusing on who and how well we love. We have a responsibility to pray for the souls in Purgatory. While she was in prison, St. Perpetua had a vision of her brother, Dinocrates, who had died of disease at the age of seven. She saw him pale and discolored, still bearing the ulcers on his face that had led to his death. He was hot and thirsty, but unable to drink from a font of water, which was too high for him to reach. Upon waking, she realized her late brother was in torment and needed her prayers. She prayed faithfully every day, and offered up her sufferings for his sake. Days later, she had another vision. This time, she saw Dinocrates clean and finely clothed, with only a faint scar on his face where the ulcers had been. The water font was at his waist level and he drank from it heartily using a golden goblet before running off to play. The poor souls in Purgatory, unable to pray or obtain any merits for themselves any longer, rely on us for our prayers and intercession. It’s far more comforting (tempting, even) to believe that departed souls go straight to Heaven. But denying the reality of Purgatory—and likewise, our responsibility to the souls there—does a great disservice both to them and to us. We can rest assured that the souls we pray for will be only too happy to return the favor and pray for us once they do reach Heaven, as I can only imagine Dinocrates did for his sister. How we present ourselves to the world matters. Don’t get me wrong, appearances are far from the most important thing. But, the ways we choose to present ourselves to the world do matter, because our outward appearance is meant to reflect our hearts. Sts. Perpetua and Felicity illustrate this in two ways. When the day of the games arrived, the executioners tried to dress the prisoners in the outfits of pagan priests and priestesses. St. Perpetua boldly spoke up, refusing to compromise their witness even in these final moments, and the group was permitted to appear as they were. Moments later, these heroic saints faced the beasts in the arena. A savage cow was set upon Sts. Perpetua and Felicity, and when St. Perpetua’s leg was gored, she fell to the ground. Then, something unexpected happened. According to the witness who completed her diary with an account of their martyrdom, “Next, looking for a pin, she likewise pinned up her disheveled hair; for it was not meet that a martyr should suffer with hair disheveled, lest she should seem to grieve in her glory.” You read that right. St. Perpetua fixed her hair after being gored by a savage cow. The author of this account is clear that St. Perpetua’s intention was far from vanity. Rather, she cared about the impression she was giving through every moment of her very public martyrdom. She welcomed the opportunity to die for Christ with gratitude, even joy. By suffering so gracefully, she shared that message with every person who witnessed her torture and death. We are stronger in community than we are alone. We don’t know as much about St. Felicity as we do about St. Perpetual. We do know that, when she was taken captive, she was eight months pregnant. The law prohibited the execution of pregnant women. St. Felicity was filled with sorrow by the likelihood that she would not be able to stand with her friends as they faced their impending martyrdoms only to be killed later, amongst people she didn’t know. The group prayed fervently, and sure enough, St. Felicity gave birth to a daughter three days before the games. There is so much hope within this testimony. In community, we draw the strength and courage we so desperately need to face the evil of the world. We have the opportunity to pray and intercede for each other, knowing that “for where two or three are gathered together in My name, there am I in the midst of them” (Matthew 18:20). And, in some cases, we may even be called to face death together. So she stood up; and when she saw Felicity smitten down, she went up and gave her her hand and raised her up. On their feast day today, may Saints Perpetua and Felicity pray for us! To dive more deeply into their testimony, read St. Perpetua’s diary, one of the earliest surviving pieces of writing by a Christian woman, here. [bctt tweet="What Modern Catholic Women Can Learn from Two Third-Century Martyrs #BISblog //" username="lisajanelkirk"]

Music. It’s an art form that never ceases to move me closer to the Heart of the Father. I’ve found that my faith life blossoms and grows with music. The instruments. The voice of the vocalist. The tone and pace of each musical beat. From the title of the song to the lyrics themselves. I am moved. I close my eyes and sit in the silence of the song and see His face. There we are, just Him and I. Together, dancing together. Music During Lent As we head into this season of Lent, I pray that the playlist below meets you exactly where you’re at in your prayer and faith life. I pray that you find the words you need in this little space to draw you into and nearer to Him. I pray that you take some time, whenever that may be, on this first day of Lent, to simply sit and be. That you, sweet sister, turn it up and lean into Him. That you recognize within these songs that you are not alone. His love for you bleeds into your day to day. Nothing in your life goes unseen or unnoticed by His gaze. You are not alone on this Lenten journey as you begin to walk towards the Cross itself while carrying your own crosses. You are not alone. We are not alone. A Lenten Playlist for You My prayer for each of us this Lenten season is that we truly dive into the journey He has for us in the next 40 days. That we truly dig deep into the hard things, the blessings, the easy things, and the joys of this life He’s given. Let's spend time reflecting on our own dying to self so that we may rise again with new life. Let's close our eyes, turn the music up, and simply be still with Him. For when we draw near to Him, He draws nearer to us. (James 4:8). [bctt tweet="A Reflective Lenten Playlist #BISblog //" username="herfitlife7"]

Spring and summer are two of my favorite seasons because of the new life, hope, and warmth that come with it! I also love having beach days and time by the pool. My son and I are going on a little beach trip in early spring, and I have been looking for bathing suits to wear during our time in the sand and by the water. Over the past few years, through nursing school, wedding planning, pregnancy, postpartum, and a recent diagnosis of Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, my body has changed quite a bit. I want a swimsuit that I feel comfortable and confident in, and one that upholds my dignity as a woman through it’s modest and beautiful features. I want to wear a suit that pays tribute to all that my body has gone through. Not one that puts my body on display or draws attention to certain parts that our culture says are the most attractive. The Beauty Found Within Modesty Modesty is a virtue that I have struggled with for the majority of my life. I still struggle with it! I’ve always loved fashion, and our culture is not one that encourages the beauty of modesty. I have allowed myself to get lured into purchasing and wearing immodest clothing. I have also worn certain pieces of clothing out of vanity. Modesty, like most of the virtues, doesn’t come easily for me and is something that I must constantly strive for. Through prayer and a desire for true, authentic beauty, my love and desire for modesty has grown. There is such freedom and joy found within modesty! Modesty also goes beyond fashion and trends. The word "modesty" comes from the Latin word modestia, meaning, “moderation, sense of honor, and correctness of conduct.” Modesty is upholding the honor, privilege, and dignity of our bodies and souls through our thoughts and actions. It is remembering that we are made in the image and likeness of our Creator. It is expressed through gentleness, humility, and truth. Modesty is often attacked by pride, vanity, and disordered affections. Questions to Consider Modesty and purity of heart are two things that I pray for. In addition to asking these five questions before I make a clothing purchase, I also ask myself the following: Would I be comfortable wearing this in front of Mother Mary and Jesus? What is at the root of wearing this particular outfit/style? Is it vanity? Pride? Disordered self-love? Or is to gently reveal God’s beauty, order, and glory? A Swimsuit for Every Body Finding swimsuit styles that are modest and beautiful can be a daunting task, let alone searching for brands that offer inclusive sizes. Yet, in my hunt for the perfect swimsuit, I found stunning, high quality pieces that showcase our dignity and femininity and offer an array of prints, sizes, and fits. Albion Fit offers sizes XXS-XXL, along with long torso, maternity, and petite swimsuits. Hackwith Design House produces plus sizes and Summersalt sells sizes 2-14. Jessica Rey, a company that just launched their Spring/Summer 2019 Swim Line, creates one piece swimsuits, swim dresses, swim skirts, and swim shorts. Be A Heart designed a gorgeous one piece Marian print swimsuit and is offering all Blessed is She readers 20% off any swimsuit with code "BIS"! The Hermoza is a new brand that just launched a stunning line of swim and resort wear. Their suits, along with their sarongs and accessories, are both elegant and effortless. Ethically Made Swimsuits It’s exciting to see companies offer modest clothing options as well as inclusive sizing. With a greater awareness for the dignity of the human person on the forefront of many people’s hearts, more businesses are also striving for their clothes to be made ethically out of sustainable fabrics. All of the bathing suits in this post are ethically made. You can read why purchasing ethically is important here, here, and here. I have a deep hope that companies will begin to see the necessity of treating their workers with the dignity that they deserve. Through our actions as consumers, we will push companies to provide all workers with safe working conditions and fair living wages. We will begin to see changes when we support small businesses and ask clothing companies questions like, “Who made my clothes and in what conditions?” We will make a difference when we write letters to retailers requesting transparency in their supply chain and how their workers are treated. It is up to us to help our brothers and sisters in need! You are Beautiful Sisters, you are beautiful. Your bodies are beautiful. We are the “crown of creation” (Genesis 2:22). Modesty is a virtue that brings freedom, beauty, and joy because in modesty, we are mirroring our Creator and His deep love for us. We are expressing to the world what a privilege it is to be a woman. Gracie One Piece by Beth Richards Agnes Lucille Bathing Suit by Be A Heart (Use code "BIS" for 20% off!) Sash One Piece by Hackwith Design House The Bronte Off Shoulder One Piece by Albion Fit Marie in Botanical by Jessica Rey Outfit Onepiece by MYMARINI Have you found a swimsuit for this season that you love? Tell us about it in the comments below! [bctt tweet="Beautiful + Modest Swimsuits for Every Body Type #BISblog //" username="findphilothea"]

When I was really little, sometimes my Mom would sing us this little tune to remind us of the big liturgical season coming upon us: “Lent, Lent, it's time to repent!” I giggle thinking about it, because at that tender age, I am fairly certain I didn’t really know what the term "repentance" meant. Growing up, my family always celebrated the season of Lent. We would go to the fish fry at our parish each week, and often wander across the parking lot afterwards to pray the Stations of the Cross. We would all give up something as a family and would try to make more time for family prayer. But as I grew up in a more mature faith, so did my understanding change of the sacredness of this season. If you glance at your calendar, you'll see that Lent is right around the corner (beginning on March 6th). Does Lent sometimes stress you out? It does for me! Lent is Not a Personal Improvement Program I think sometimes I get caught up in this lie that Lent is some spiritual improvement plan where I have to “get my act together” and do Lent like I am some type of spiritual ninja. I grab my Rosary beads, gather up all my will and might, and put on a cape and mask to become super-duper holy. Sometimes I make it more about "doing Lent well," rather than asking the Holy Spirit to reveal to me where I need to grow and be challenged, to ask Jesus what He wants me to do for Lent. Lent is the most sacred season of the year for Catholics because we prepare to remember and celebrate the greatest mysteries of our faith: the Passion, Death, and Resurrection of Jesus. In this season, in order to prepare our hearts and minds, the Church offers us different ways to turn away from sin and towards Jesus through prayer, fasting, and almsgiving. WRITE + PRAY We invite you to sit with the Word and unpack it in a uniquely personal way, finding your own story. Discover your story within His. GET WRITE AND PRAY What to Give Up and Take Up This Lent I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed this Lent, friend. I do not want you to feel like you have to come to Jesus perfectly and get it all right. Start right where you are and let Him lead. Here is a list of ideas to get you thinking on how to keep prayer, fasting, and almsgiving wherever you are on your walk with the Lord. Prayer Prayer is our conversation with God, both our speaking to Him and listening. When we develop a lifestyle of prayer in our daily life, we develop a closer relationship to each person of the Trinity. There is no right or wrong way to pray, and your prayer style will change over your stage in life and vocation. Jesus just wants us to be with Him! So let’s just start there. Ideas for Prayer Count your daily gratefuls in the shower or on the drive to work Go to daily Mass an extra day or two outside of Sunday Pray the Angelus at 12 p.m. Pray the Rosary as a family, or Pray the Rosary in your car by yourself Attend Mass in a different Catholic Rite or in another language other than English Pray the Examen at the end of your day Read the Gospel of Mark for ten minutes each day Fasting Fasting is one of the most ancient practices associated with Lent. Many of the early Desert Fathers and Mothers imposed very strict fasts upon themselves as a way to fight temptation, strengthen their will, and rely on Jesus in a deeper way. When talking about fasting, it is important to remember that there are many different ways to fast other than eating less food, though that is a common route. The prophet Isaiah insisted that fasting without changing our behavior is not pleasing to God. This shows us the goal of fasting is very closely linked to prayer and a right disposition of heart. An empty belly or a connected person on social media reminds us of our hunger for God, and prayer and fasting together bring us to what Lent is all about: a deeper conversion to Jesus Christ. Ideas for Fasting Do not eat meat on an additional weekday Take the worst parking spot you can find Eat one less meal Read this book on intermittent fasting and consider trying it this Lent Set a daily timer for Facebook or your favorite social media fix Wake up an hour earlier than you normally do Don’t buy anything extra except food Don’t watch TV (or Hulu, Netflix, or Amazon Prime) Turn off the radio in the car Eat more simply Give up caffeine or limit yourself to one cup of coffee each day Do not swear or gossip Almsgiving The Catechism of the Catholic Church gives us a basic definition of almsgiving: to provide for the material needs of the Church according to their ability (CCC 2041-2043). Giving money to the poor is one of the most concrete acts of charity to our brothers and sisters. But just as with fasting, almsgiving is more than just giving money. Almsgiving is an act of justice that pleases the heart of God when we care for our neighbor in need, whomever it is or whatever the situation is. The hope when we give alms is that we will learn to be generous and more dependent on God to meet our needs, rather than providing for ourselves while forgetting the needs of others less fortunate than us. Ideas for Almsgiving Do not use your credit card during Lent, only pay with cash Each day of Lent, write an affirmation note to someone special in your life Give up downloading apps, games, or music to your phone If you like texting or talking on the phone, write more letters Make a meal for an elderly neighbor Show an act of kindness to a family member each day Participate in the 40 bags in 40 days challenge Show an act of kindness to someone who difficult to like Give up complaining, take up gratitude instead Give up online shopping Raise funds for organizations like Heifer International to help low-income farmers secure livelihood How are you preparing your heart and mind for Lent this season? Preparing Our Hearts Remember, Lent is not about getting it perfectly right. Ask the Holy Spirit how He wants to make you more like Jesus, and then follow that prompting in your Lenten practices. How will you keep the practices of prayer, fasting, and almsgiving these forty days? [bctt tweet="What to Give Up and Take Up this Lent #BISblog #BISlent //" username="amoderngrace"]

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When I was a college student, the only thing I wanted to do during Spring Break was sleep. I didn’t have money to go on a vacation with friends. And, to be honest, I was intimidated by the party scene MTV projected on their Spring Break programming. With so many “study abroad” options on college campuses, Spring Break doesn’t have the same attraction for college students as it once did. Why limit travel to a week in Spring when you can study in Europe for semester, am I right? Alternative Spring Break Ideas for College Students Maybe you don’t have a study abroad option and you feel the same way I once did about Spring Break. So let me try and paint another canvas for you to contemplate for your upcoming or future Spring Breaks. You don’t have to blind anyone with your pale or ashy skin in a bathing suit after this winter’s polar vortex. In fact, you can make this spring one where you grow closer to God, enter into Lent in a more profound way, and give Him all the glory. If that sounds inviting, consider these alternative Spring Break options. Personal Retreat One of the best Spring Breaks I ever had was when I took a personal retreat where I knew no one! Better yet, I couldn’t even talk to anyone but a spiritual director. If you haven’t guessed, it was a silent retreat, and it was powerful. Look into local or distant retreat options such as a Blessed is She Shine retreat, an 8-day Ignatian retreat, or a silent retreat. Sign up and sign out! Tell your friends and family that you will be away, turn off the cell phone, and stop. Take naps, shut your brain off from studies, and allow your eyes to focus on the Lord, not your screens. This will feed the hunger you want satisfied more than any Vegas buffet or night club. Choose Your Own Adventure For the past few years, I have been blessed to have Holy Week off work. Each year, my best friend and I would go on an adventure. One year we went to New York City to celebrate her birthday, another year we road tripped to California. Then, we did the most adventurous trip ever: we hiked the Grand Canyon to Havasupai Falls. Havasupai is the only place in the United States that still gets mail by Pony Express. The waters are crystal blue and the terrain was rough to hike. We took this adventure the year my dad died, and my father loved camping. It was a trip where I felt close to my father and my Father. Adventure enlivens your soul. It could be taking a hike with some friends for a day, going paragliding, visiting a museum, or taking a photography class. Regardless of what your adventure is, choose something you have never done and bring a friend along, or just your Bible, journal, and Jesus. See the world with new eyes; see the world through Christ’s eyes. Serve There are so many service opportunities that you can look into locally and abroad. Habitat for Humanity was one of my favorites long before Chip and Joanna came on HGTV. Giving back and serving so that a family can have a home to call their own allows the Beatitudes to come to life. Working with power guns and hammers might not be your style, so find what speaks to your giftedness and call that organization to volunteer today! Mission Trips through Campus Ministry As a Campus Minister, one of my jobs is to coordinate the Alternative Spring Break Mission Trips. This year we are traveling to New York City, the Dominican Republic, and Tijuana. Our FOCUS missionaries are also taking students to England and Peru. There are countless ASB Mission Trips through your university and Campus Ministry programs on campus so connect with your Campus Minister to see what is available. In addition, some diocesan and parish young adult ministries have ASB Missions or even pilgrimages, so check with them to see if there is anything you can be a part of. Theology of the Body Institute One spring I decided to grow in my Faith knowledge by attending the Theology of the Body Institute. I have to admit that when my instructor said that the course was a master’s program crammed into a week, I started to sweat. But the course was not overwhelming. In fact, I would describe it as prayerful, full of truth, healing, and challenging in the best way possible. If you want to grow theologically, check into a week-long program such as TOB Institute or connect with your diocese to see what they offer in formation or conferences. Go Home Of course, you do have parents and you might be missing your siblings a bit, so there is always a trip home that speaks to your heart. Take some time to actually be at home and visit with your parents. Offer to help around the house and maybe even take your mom or dad out for dinner or a fun family day. Maybe you can purchase a copy of To the End and do it with your sisters and mom during Lent and in person while you are home. Go to Mass with your family or even Reconciliation with them. Make it a Spring Break they will remember for years to come. Whatever you decide to do, bring Christ into it. Make time for the Sacraments and time with the Lord. Alternate how you see Spring Break and allow the Lord to bring new life into your heart this Spring. What are your plans for Spring Break this year? [bctt tweet="Alternative Spring Break Ideas for College Students #BISblog //" username="SoCalTriciaT"]

Little gal pal Callan Thérèse made her debut on December 7th, and life truly has not been the same since. New motherhood has been a season of learning, growing, and being stretched. I've grown used to asking myself a million times, "Am I doing this right?!" It's been a season of leaning into Him and His way. It's been a season of truly digging deep into the present and not worrying so much about the moment, but the one that's before me. As I sit and reflect on all that motherhood outside of the womb has been, I am in awe. I am joyful and tired. I am filled to the brim and simultaneously emptied. I am so in love with this new little life we have to take care of, and also so in shock that I'm old enough to do this thing called motherhood (I'm 29 for the record...). There have been joys and there have been struggles. And there has been a lot of grace. The Struggles of New Motherhood Let's be real. My schedule doesn't exist. I'm a planner and use my Blessed is She Liturgical Planner each and every day. Before Callan arrived, I'd have every hour of each day planned out. I knew what was happening and when. It was amazing. No More Schedule Yet now, my schedule is a bit more of a...free for all. Callan eats at odd hours, sleeps at odd hours, is awake at odd hours. Everything, so it seems, is at an hour which I haven't planned. The struggle is real for this planner. With the lack of schedule comes a lack of sleep. We wake every few hours at night to feed. Somedays I actually wonder if my eyes are open because of the night we've had. And yet, with the lack of schedule I am learning to simply be present. I am learning more about the gift it is to be still and I'm given numerous opportunities throughout each day to practice. The struggle is real, but so is the beauty of practicing intentional presence with our sweet girl. So Tired I'm tired, like I already mentioned. And so is my sweet husband, Matt. We have this routine at night where I'll feed Cal and then Matt will wake to change her diaper, swaddle her back up, and put her back in her bassinet. With our sleep deprivation and the fact that we both work long hours—me from home and Matt at his law firm—we aren't much fun at the moment. It's hard to invest in one another after a long day. But we're learning quickly that communication is everything. We're learning to call each other on in the midst of this grand transition. We're learning to band together more than ever before as a team, for our girl, and for our marriage. For the glory of His Kingdom and the family unit. We know that this season is one in which we don't have a lot of time for each other, but we're learning to steal hugs and kisses here and there. We're learning to over-communicate rather than under-communicate about where we're at and what we need. We're learning to sacrifice more for the sake of our little family. I know we're growing in holiness through this. The Joys of New Motherhood The joys of new motherhood far outweigh the struggles. I am in awe each day that I wake to find this little tiny human that's ours. I am in awe at the very thought of this: God chose this little gal pal for us, and us for her. He willed that we may lead one another to the gates of Heaven by loving each other well in this life. It's all so crazy to me when I really reflect and pray through it all. My heart swells each day for many reasons because I get to be this girlie's mama. Her little coos. Her smiles. The fact that she's staying awake longer now. Seeing Matt and Callan together on the couch after a long day, his strong hands holding her little self so gently and with such great love. The fact that my parents are grandparents for the first time and watching them interact with their grand baby. Adventuring out as a family of three instead of just two. Growing into parenthood with my very best friend. Learning to pray through literally everything and not questioning this path that the Lord has set before us. Quiet Faithfulness It's so easy to fall into comparison or doubt as a new mother. It's so easy to wonder if we're "doing things right." But silently, gently, and yet so profoundly, the Lord laid these words on my heart: "This season of new motherhood is a season of quiet faithfulness." Quiet faithfulness. It reminds me of our sweet Blessed Mother and the way she so deeply trusted her motherhood and the path set before her. My joys of new motherhood are ultimately rooted here, too. Quiet faithfulness. I don't know all there is to being a new mom and could probably use a bit of advice here and there. But I know that He leads this way. And I know that Callan is ours to lead to Him. And so I continue to go quietly in faith, trusting that He never calls and fails to equip. My joy comes from the Lord. Are you a new mom? Can you relate? What are your greatest joy and struggles right now? [bctt tweet="The Joys + Struggles of New Motherhood #BISblog //" username="herfitlife7"]

From researching and writing about mental health as a journalist to talking about it with loved ones, I’ve realized how common mental illness is. But I’ve also realized how hidden these disorders can be. That is, a successful career, an active social life, motherhood, or good grades are not markers of mental illness. But even women whose lives seem put together can, of course, struggle with it. More than that, in some circles, mental health just doesn’t come up in conversation. The stigma around mental illness or the negative connotations of words like “disorder” and “illness” could be to blame. Plus, opening up about mental health can be nerve-wracking and uncomfortable, if not humbling. 4 Lies We Tell Ourselves about Mental Health More and more people (like bloggers and celebrities) have gone public with their mental health struggles, which has, in part, brought disorders out of the shadows of stigma. Even as honest, open dialogue about psychological disorders becomes normal, however, some misconceptions remain. So, let’s shed some light on four of the lies we tell ourselves about our mental health. Lie #1: No one understands what this is like. When mental health concerns become a lasting source of stress and emotional distress, it’s a sign of mental illness. The term mental illness covers several classes of disorders, which are so different from one another that it’s difficult to generalize the effects of each. Not to mention, psychological disorders can be more or less severe in different people. In general, though, mental illness affects thoughts, emotions, and behavior. In the United States, about one in five women lives with mental illness, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Some research suggests that almost all of us will, at some point, develop a mental disorder. In other words, you’re not alone. Others get it. Your circumstances are different, to be sure. But others get it. Still, having a psychological disorder can feel isolating. A therapist or other mental health professional may be able to point you to a local support group. Online support groups are another option if you don’t have access to a support group in your area. The internet can facilitate connection and a sense of belonging between people who have the same condition. Even if you don’t join a support group, you can take comfort knowing others share similar struggles. Lie #2: No one can help me. Data shows that about 49% of women with mental illness are receiving help for their condition. What about the other half? Of course, not all people can access or afford treatment. In addition, the stigma of mental illness can keep people from seeking help. Others doubt that mental health professionals can help them. First, certain mental illnesses—such as bipolar disorder, persistent depressive disorder, and schizophrenia—are chronic (persisting over a long period of time). While a cure doesn’t exist, these conditions are treatable. Second, aside from chronic conditions, most psychological disorders are short-lived with proper treatment. (That doesn’t mean these disorders aren’t debilitating, though.) For most people, treatment includes talk therapy, medication, or both. Medication alleviates symptoms. Talk therapy teaches you to cope with what’s troubling you—and helps you better understand your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in the process. When it comes to mental health concerns, seek help sooner than later. Your wellbeing depends on it, after all. Remember that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. [bctt tweet="Remember that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. #BISblog //" via="no"] Lie #3: Everyone will judge me. Broaching the subject of mental health with a significant other, friend, relative, or spiritual director can be intimidating. Fear of judgment can keep these conversations from even happening. You may wonder whether others will think less of you, treat you like a different person, or distance themselves from you. If anything, though, these people should respect you more for what you’re up against—and for having the courage to share it with them. What’s more, talking about mental health in trusted relationships opens the door for others to share their experiences. Who knows, before long, conversations about mental health could become your new normal. Talking about mental health with others can feel liberating, but that doesn’t have to mean coming forward with these struggles on social media or another public platform. (Major respect for those who do, though.) While talking about mental health helps to break the stigma, these conversations do not need to happen with each of your relatives, acquaintances, etc. if that doesn’t feel right. Reserving conversations about mental health for those closest to you is a valid decision that deserves respect, too. Lie #4: If I were holier, I wouldn’t have a mental illness. You know Jesus offers peace, but you’re anxious. You’ve tried to rest in the Lord’s presence, but you’re restless. You’ve heard that Christians should be joyful, but you feel numb. Before you wonder whether you’re giving enough to God—praying enough, fasting enough, and so on—remember that psychological disorders dictate thoughts and emotions. Remember, too, that faith isn’t all about feelings. So, it’s OK (and natural) to not feel what you “should” feel. The symptoms of mental illness do not point to a weak faith life or poor relationship with God. Mental illness is a matter of health, not holiness. [bctt tweet="Mental illness is a matter of health, not holiness. #BISblog //" via="no"] Likewise, don’t be discouraged if you’re praying for healing and it’s not happening. Yes, God heals according to His will, but that doesn’t mean treatment isn’t in His will. While God can use suffering for a greater good, He wants you to experience happiness and some degree of fulfillment. For that reason, it’s acceptable—and super important—to seek the care of mental health professionals. If you’re dealing with mental illness, treatment will allow you to function better and, therefore, better live out your vocation. What lies have you believed about mental health? [bctt tweet="4 Lies We Tell Ourselves about Mental Health #BISblog //" via="no"] Mary Claire Lagroue is a journalist who covers culture, health, food, and travel. Between the deadlines, find her buried in a book, mapping out her next weekend trip, or designing cards at Paper Garden Goods.

A few months ago, my husband and I decided to start praying the St. Andrew Novena together. The novena begins on November 30th (St. Andrew’s feast day) and ends on Christmas Day. It can be an intense undertaking, as it calls for praying the same prayer 15 times a day, every day. I will admit, I did not finish all 25 days of the novena (all the kudos go to my husband, who did!). But a few days into it, I started wondering what this novena business was all about, anyway. I was born and raised Catholic. I have prayed a handful of novenas throughout my life, mostly in recent years. Despite participating in them, I’ve never learned much about them, or why we as Catholics might want to pray them. So I did some digging, and I’m sharing it all here in case you, too, are curious about this aspect of Catholicism. What is a Novena? The word “novena” is derived from the Latin word for nine, or “novem.” Typically, a novena refers to nine days of prayer, asking God for a specific intention, often through a Saint’s intercession. Novenas are a beautiful way to grow purposeful, consistent, and persistent in daily prayer. Many of the most popular and widely-prayed novenas begin or end on a Saint’s feast day. And it’s important to note that while most novenas are indeed nine days long, there are some exceptions (like the St. Andrew Christmas novena, which is 25 days long!). Why is a Novena 9 Days? There are a few reasons why the number nine might be significant. The first comes from the Acts of the Apostles, when Jesus told His disciples to gather together and pray after His Ascension into Heaven. Tradition tells us that the Apostles, along with the Blessed Virgin Mary, went to the Upper Room and prayed together for the nine days between Jesus’ Ascension (believed to have been 40 days after His Passion/Passover) and Pentecost. Another reason could be that nine is significant because of the nine months that Mary carried Jesus in her womb. In fact, people in the Middle Ages traditionally spent nine days in prayer leading up to Christmas to signify the nine months that Jesus spent in the womb of His mother! I love these two thoughts behind the significance of the number. The parallel between Jesus spending nine months in Mary’s womb before coming forth to fulfill His mission on Earth, and Mary and the Apostles spending nine days in prayer before going forth to spread the Gospel is so striking.     How Do You Pray a Novena? Simply pray the novena prayer that corresponds with each day for nine days straight. Some novenas repeat the same prayer each day (those are great ones to start with!), while others have a specific prayer for each day of the novena. I personally like to bring one specific prayer intention into the novena. In a world where far too much is clamoring for our attention, our headspace, and heart space, I love the clarity and laser-focus a novena brings to my prayer life. I focus on one thing every day for nine days. I don’t expect the intention I pray for to magically happen on the last day. But I love the intentionality of focusing on just one prayer request for a period of time. Choosing a Saint When it comes to choosing a particular Saint's intercession to seek, I like to choose a Saint who has some link to my intention. For instance, if you are praying for an intercession linked to motherhood, you might consider praying a novena to ask for the intercession of Saintly mothers such as St. Gianna Molla, St. Zelie Martin, or St. Monica. If your intention centers around a job or employment, you may consider a novena to ask for the intercession of St. Cajetan, the patron Saint of job seekers, or St. Joseph. If your intention feels particularly thorny, convoluted, or desperate, a novena to ask for the intercession of St. Jude (patron Saint of desperate situations) or Our Lady Undoer of Knots is a great choice. These are not hard and fast rules, just ideas to get you going! Tools + Tips For the practical aspect of remembering and praying novenas, there are some great tools out there for helping you begin—and stick with—a novena. Pray More Novenas is a site created by one of our own Blessed is She writers, Annie, and her husband. It was designed to help Catholics—you guessed it—pray more novenas! They choose different novenas to pray as a community. I find that knowing I’m praying alongside thousands of others helps me stick to it. You can sign up to get daily emails to remind you to pray. It’s a great way to implement novenas into your regular prayer life. There’s also a great app that simplifies novenas by giving you daily reminders, suggested dates to pray, and the novena prayers all in one place. Finally, I like to utilize the alarms on my cell phone to remind me to pray (if I’m not getting a reminder sent via email or through an app). Set yourself up for success by choosing a time when you’re already likely to be on your phone, so the alarm doesn’t catch you off guard or in the middle of something important. I know that I typically spend some time scrolling in the evening after my kids are in bed. Setting an alarm for that timeframe makes it more likely that I’ll actually say the prayers. Lean into Grace Finally, don’t sweat the details too much, sisters. If you miss a day, it’s okay. Say two prayers the next day, or just call it a wash and keep going. God is merciful. A sincere heart and our best effort is what He asks of us! I have to check myself when I fall into thoughts of, “Oh no! I missed a day! Now this won’t count and God won’t grant my intention!” It’s important to remember that God is absolutely not a genie in a bottle. We don’t get prayers granted like wishes as long as we click our heels together three times or say certain prayers the right way. While a novena is a beautiful way to bring our specific intentions before God, it’s not a guarantee that He will answer our prayers in the way that we hope. Often, I find His answers are always better than anything I could have imagined or hoped for, anyway. Let us, as a sisterhood, walk together as we grow more consistent and persistent in prayer. Let's embrace the beauty and challenge of novenas, knowing there’s no way to "mess up" when God’s will is our highest aim. Do you pray novenas? What is your favorite novena to pray? [bctt tweet="All About Novenas #BISblog //" via="no"]

Imagine the sharp confusion you feel when the wind gets knocked out of you, or the terror you’d feel if you got swept away by a fierce current in the ocean. When you’re in survival mode, it’s hard to imagine that eventually you’ll be able to breathe deeply again or safely swim back to shore. Longing to Be Loved In my early 20s, I was in survival mode. Deep wounds left me grasping for connection and approval through unhealthy relationships. My family thought I was a virgin and didn’t know about the man I’d been seeing. I was barely aware of my own woundedness. Yet there I was—grad student, unmarried, and unexpectedly pregnant. The wind was knocked out of me. I couldn’t swim through the strong current. I couldn’t breathe and was overwhelming afraid. How could this have happened? I’m a good Catholic girl from a devout family, fully aware of the repercussions of sin. I’ve studied John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and understand why sex is reserved for a husband and wife within the Sacrament of Marriage. But I was unmarried and pregnant. And I knew that my life would never be the same. Afraid...Accepted I was afraid of the shame and judgement I’d face when people found out. I couldn’t imagine what my future looked like as an unmarried mother. Would I have to give up my career goals and love of adventure? What if my parents were so angry that they kick me out of the house? Would the father of my child abandon me? Deep down I knew that he was not able to marry me or help care for our child. So there I was, unmarried and pregnant, and (seemingly) alone. Yes, my life never was the same. And for that, I am so grateful! Rather than give up on my goals, I earned a master’s degree in business management and graduated with a big baby bump. Rather than kick me out of the house, my parents took the pregnancy test with me. They continue to support me on my journey as a single mom. Rather than put the emotional power in the hands of a man not capable of caring for me or our child, I made a life plan for her. Rather than give up on adventure, I forged new paths out of extreme love for my precious daughter and am learning to love myself in the process. Her life is truly the greatest gift I have ever received on this turbulent earthly journey to Heaven. We are All Adopted Children of God My unplanned pregnancy led me out of darkness and back into communion with our Lord. While there still are dark days, I am confident in His love for me. My parents, siblings, extended family members, and close friends have shown me nothing but unconditional love. When I was about four months pregnant, the Holy Spirit led me to choose an open adoption plan for my child. Our open adoption is full of both beautiful and extremely difficult moments, an ongoing glimpse into the mysteries of the Sacred Heart. My daughter is growing up in a happy home with devoutly Catholic married parents and two adoring big brothers, who are also adopted. Her strong, present adoptive father can provide for her in a way her biological father couldn’t. Her beautiful adoptive mother and I are very connected and hold great love and respect for each other. While the pain of missing my daughter can be overwhelming, I'm grateful for our open adoption, the strong love between everyone involved, and the support I receive daily from my family at home. We share life together through photos, text messages, and visits. My daughter will always know me and understand how much I love her. Her middle name is Grace, which, according to the Catechism, means, “favour, the free and undeserved help that God gives us to respond to his call to become children of God, adoptive sons [and daughters], partakers of the divine nature and of eternal life.” Grace—the most beautiful gift! Every Pregnancy is Different Remember that every pregnancy situation is different. While we teach our peers and children the truth about God’s holy plan for marriage and family, the brokenness of this world still results in unexpected pregnancies. Those who are single, in committed relationships, or even married may conceive and not feel equipped to handle it at the time. It can be easy to give into fear and hopelessness when a new life enters the world in a way we didn’t expect or when we feel it'soutside the blessing of God’s plan. But God’s plan is always life-giving! Imagine how our Blessed Mother must have felt when she received the scandalous news of her own unplanned pregnancy. Then remember the support and love bestowed upon her by her family as they welcomed the Christ child into the world. Regardless of the circumstances, we are called to embrace the gift of life. We are called to provide the love, support, and resources every pregnant woman and family needs to welcome their child into the world.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column] What to Do When Faced with an Unexpected Pregnancy Accept the reality of the present. A young woman who experiences an unplanned pregnancy is fully aware of what happened. She needs love and empathy, not a lecture. The reality is that a child has already been brought forth into worldly existence. Choose to embrace the present and future, not dwell on what should or shouldn’t have happened in the past. Judgmental attitudes emotionally harm the mother, potentially threaten the life of the unborn child, and can damage relationships that take years to rebuild. Rather than dwell in the past, dwell in compassion. Move forward in support of the mother and the beautiful new life carried within her. Make a plan for the future. A woman and couple have three choices when faced with a child that she and/or he feels unequipped to care for: the choice to parent, to place for adoption, or to have an abortion. Making a life plan early on helps the mother regain control of the situation. It takes care of her needs so she can make the best choice for her child’s blossoming life. If you or someone you love is experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, remember that you are not alone. There are wonderful people ready to support you along your unique journey as a parent. Taking care of your body, mind, and heart is just as important for your health as it is for your baby’s growth and development. Create appropriate boundaries, focus on the grace given to you each day, and cut out negative people and activities in order to reduce stress and be able to hear God’s calling for you. And remember that whatever choice you make now that you’re a mother, your baby loves you and so does our loving God! Parenting If you feel prepared to care for your child as a single parent or with the support of the father, it is important to build your “village” with your family and community. Think about the potential barriers to your ability to be a good mom. Seek out trustworthy and reliable people who can help provide resources like baby supplies, childcare, and support for your own mental health, education, and career. Ask your church or local pregnancy center about getting involved with parenting classes and support groups. Adoption Making an adoption plan for your baby is an incredibly selfless, courageous, and loving way to ensure the best possible life for yourself and your child if you don’t feel equipped to parent for any reason. Choosing a forever home for your child through adoption is painful and there is grief in the experience. At the same time, it's beautiful and healing. Birth moms can choose the family they want to raise their child. They also decide how much interaction to have with the adoptive family as their child grows. You’ll “just know” when you connect with the right family who will love you and your child unconditionally. If you are considering placing your child for adoption, you can learn more about the process and get help from the online ministry BraveLove. Abortion Ending a pregnancy through abortion is devastatingly common and legal in America. But abortion is not an easy way out. It stops the heartbeat of one human being and breaks the heart of another. Studies have shown that abortion can be a dangerous procedure and drastically increases the risk of depression, anxiety, and other health issues for both women and men who’ve experienced abortion. Be aware that whatever choice you make, life will never be as it was before getting pregnant. Post-abortive sorrow and regret is very real. There is hope and immediate help for those considering abortion by visiting OptionLine. If you seek healing from a past abortion, the loving community of Rachel’s Vineyard is ready to welcome you with open arms and walk through the grieving process with you. We're with You If you’re in survival mode right now, give yourself a chance to be loved by our Heavenly Father. He wants nothing but the best for you and your child. He will never burden you with anything you can’t overcome with His help. Remember that you have a community of resources here to support you on your journey as a mother. We love both you and your baby! [bctt tweet="What to Do When Faced with an Unexpected Pregnancy #BISblog //" via="no"] Rachel LeBeau is a proud birth momma to a precious little girl and enjoys a beautiful open adoption with her forever family. She is available to share her pro-life story through speaking engagements (for booking information, you can email her at rachel.lebeau8@gmail.com). A contemplative at heart, Rachel loves to commune with our Redeemer through prayer and liturgy, nature, art, and her beloved ones.

For as the heavens tower over the earth, so his mercy towers over those who fear him. As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our sins from us. // Psalm 103:11-12 Thank you for these beautiful free wallpapers from Sarah Elizabeth. Let His word dwell in us richly, sisters. Remember, Members, you get this 8x10 digital download for free! Head to the shop for your download. Download your F R E E wallpapers right here --->>> Phone wallpaper Desktop wallpaper

Several years ago, as an eager Confirmation student, I remember paging through The Book of Saints. I attempted to get a snapshot of several Saints to help me determine who I wanted to pick for my Confirmation name. This was a responsibility I did not take lightly. I wanted to pick someone to whom I not only felt drawn, but also someone who was drawing me to them. I wanted my namesake to be someone I could place my confidence in to intercede for me. Someone in Heaven who would remain my spiritual warrior. I found what I was hoping for in the Apostle Peter. He is the rock of our Church, and the man we celebrate today on this Feast of Saint Peter’s Chair. Peter’s Humanity As I learned more about St. Peter, I was in awe of his great humility. He made a few mistakes along the way and often ended up in some pretty embarrassing and regretful situations. For example, the doubt that caused him to sink when Jesus invited him to walk on water. Or maybe his naivete when Peter recommended to Jesus that they build three tents when Moses and Elijah appeared to them on the mountain. In his human weakness and yes, cowardice, he even denied knowing his friend, Jesus. He did this not once, but three times. It wasn’t Peter’s mistakes that made me feel drawn to him. It was the fact that Jesus loved him in spite of his mistakes. What I admire in this great Saint is that, after all of his mistakes, he continued to repent and pursue virtue. His humility is the quality which I am most in awe of. The virtuous humility that grabbed my attention most was what took place right before his martyrdom. Peter’s Humility St. Peter did not think himself worthy of being killed in the same manner as His Lord. So instead of being crucified as Jesus was, he begged his persecutors to crucify him upside-down. Italian painter Caravaggio portrayed this scene so beautifully in his piece, The Crucifixion of Saint Peter. Here, Peter is portrayed with a sense of longing in his eyes, a longing to be reunited with his friend Jesus. He remains unshaken by the terror all around him. But rather, he was a symbol of what his name in Greek represents, Petros, or “rock.” Jesus said to him, “...you are Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church” (Matthew 16:18). Despite all of Peter’s shortcomings, Jesus made him the rock upon which he built His Church. This is a great encouragement to me. If Peter can deny Christ, but later refuse to be crucified in the same manner as his Lord, I hope that Christ will redeem me in my own sinfulness, no matter the gravity of my sin, and approach the Lord with the same humility that Peter did. Today, the obelisk that stands in the center of St. Peter’s Square in Rome is likely the very last thing that Peter laid his eyes on before dying. It stood in the Vatican Circus where he was martyred. The obelisk originally stood as a monument to draw people to watch persecutions. Now it stands as a beacon in St. Peter’s Square, where it draws people to the heart of the Church. The Altar of St. Peter's Chair Today, in St. Peter’s Basilica in Rome, you can visit the Altar of the Chair, in which you will see the beautiful alabaster Holy Spirit window. Here in this chapel is a twenty-three foot tall gilded bronze throne which was made by Bernini in the seventeenth century. Encased in this throne is an old wooden frame of what is believed to be St. Peter’s own chair (or “cathedra” which means the official throne of a bishop). It was later embellished with oak and ivory in order to help hold the chair together and to decorate it. What the Chair Represents This chair appears to be supported by four Doctors of the Church. There are two Western doctors, St. Ambrose and St. Augustine, and two Eastern doctors, St. John Chrysostom and St. Athanasius. These figures show the universality of the Church as well as how consistent the theologians’ teaching is with the doctrine of the Apostles. Although the chair seems to be supported by the four Doctors, it is actually supported by the clouds which surround it. The Clouds, the Angels, and the Mission What I love about this image is that the clouds represent God’s glory. They show that the Church is dependent not on men, but on the Holy Spirit. The clouds which surround the chair show that although the Doctors support the Church by passing it on from generation to generation, it is through the Holy Spirit that the doctrine of the Church is passed on. Above the chair are angels which bear a tiara and keys which symbolize the Pope’s teaching as well as his spiritual and moral authority. On the golden background of the altar is the Latin inscription: “O Pastor Ecclesiae, tu omnes Christi pascis agnos et over.” This means, “O Pastor of the Church, you feed all Christ’s lambs and sheep.” Pointed to Prayer On this Feast of St. Peter’s Chair we are reminded not only of our first pope and his humility, but also of his successors. Today let us ask for St. Peter’s intercession as we pray for our priests so that they, like St. Peter, will be open to the movement and direction of the Holy Spirit in their lives to continue building up our Church. [bctt tweet="The Feast of St. Peter's Chair #BISblog //" via="no"] This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase by clicking through one of these links, Blessed is She will receive a small percentage of your purchase at no additional cost to you. Thank you for supporting this ministry by using our affiliate links!

You know the stereotype: Catholics don't know the Bible. Unfortunately, I perpetuated that stereotype in my own life until my early 20s. I grew up Catholic and understood the Sacraments, but had little knowledge of Sacred Scripture. I didn't know what was contained in Scripture (beyond the ever-popular preschool stories), I didn't know how to read Scripture, and I didn't even know that praying with Scripture was a thing. It wasn't until a college professor opened my eyes to the Word of God that I understood the profound importance of the Bible, both for where we've been, and for where we're going. Longing for a Bible Study... I know I'm not alone in my desire to want to know Scripture more, to understand it more clearly. In fact, that's what brings many of us in the Blessed is She community together! We desire to know the Lord more through His Word. This leads many of us to desire to partake in a Bible study. We want to know and love the Bible, but we need someone to teach us. We need some help diving into the history, meanings, senses, and rhythm of Scripture. However, when it comes to finding a Bible study, the search can be frustrating. There are plenty of options, but how do we know which one will best suit us? Moreover, finding a solid Bible study is what causes most of us to stop in our tracks. What if it's an incorrect interpretation of Scripture? What if it contradicts Catholic teaching? A Bible Study that Works for Real Life Finally, most of us are looking for a way to read, study, and pray with the Bible that works with our actual lives. We're busy women with hundreds of spinning plates, but we want to make time for the Word. We might not have hours each week to attend collegiate-level Scripture courses, but our desire to meet God in Scripture is strong. So we need a Bible study that is thorough, engaging, beautiful, concise, and worth every minute. Many of us want to find a Bible study we can do with our small group from church or our local Catholic community. Some of us would like to find a Catholic Bible study we can do with our spouse or significant other. And some of us just want a Bible study to journey through on our own, in the nooks and crannies of our daily lives. Unique Catholic Bible Study Options If you're looking for a way to dive into the Word in a way that also immerses you in the Catholic Faith, be sure to check out our Matthew Scripture Meditation Study. This study will help you fall in love with Scripture, one chapter at a time. A unique way to dive more into Scripture is through Misericordia, our study on the Works of Mercy. You'll not only read Scripture about the mercy and female Saints who lived them out fully, but also hear from women in all different seasons about what the the Works of Mercy mean in their lives. If video or audio is your thing, pray through #BISVBS, our virtual Bible study on various books of the Bible (so far we've done Mark, Acts, Galatians, 1 Corinthians, and Ephesians!). Finally, if you want to start soaking in Scripture right this minute, we recommend beginning by reading the Psalms. The Psalms are a beautiful expression of the human heart, making them ideal in giving words to the ebbs and flows of our emotional and spiritual lives. You can open your Bible and begin hearing God's voice now.   What are You Looking for in a Catholic Bible Study? What are some of the best Catholic Bible studies you have discovered over the years? Do you prefer to move through a study on your own or in a group? Let us know in the comments below!  [bctt tweet="Finding a Great Catholic Bible Study #BISblog //" via="no"]

We packed away our ornaments, stockings, and wreaths until next year. Both my fireplace mantel and my heart felt a little barer because of it. I don’t even live in a place with terribly cold winters, but after the holidays, spring seems so awfully far away. I find myself complaining more than usual when the days are cold and gloomy. I find that small trials sometimes feel larger, and large trials nearly too heavy to bear. Give me April, Easter, sunshine, blue skies, and trees sprinkled with dogwood blossoms, and I instantly become far more the person and the Catholic that I want to be. Finding Joy in the Midst of Winter I’m determined to make this winter different. With a little help from the Danish concept of hygge, plus some tough love to pull me out of my inevitable post-holiday funk, my prayer is for an increase in joy throughout these winter months. Joy vs. Happiness One definition of happiness is “a pleasurable or satisfying experience.” That definition ties our happiness directly to our circumstances. Did you receive affirmation at work today? Were your kids well-behaved? Was the sun shining beautifully after days of rain? All of these things can make us happy, and sure, even help lead us to joy. But joy itself? That is a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), distinguished by the fact that it does not depend on circumstance. It comes from within, ignited and encouraged by God. Its presence is determined by the state of our souls, not the state of our days or our homes or the people in our lives. It is a deeper, more satisfying happiness that can carry us through any trial, if we are brave enough to ask for it. In moments of suffering, pain, and even death, joy can feel unreachable because happiness feels unreachable. But throughout history, the Saints prove that joy is accessible to us even when we may have every logical reason to feel only sorrow. There are more Saints who exemplify joy than we’ll ever know, but three in particular have taught me that joy is never unreachable if we know to Whom we must look for it. Joy Does Not Depend on Our Circumstances Philippians is the go-to book of the Bible when you want to study the gift of joy. St. Paul repeated the words “joy” and “rejoice” fifteen times throughout the four brief chapters of the book. (Note: This number may vary a little based on Bible translations. I counted in my Catholic Journaling Bible). He rejoiced in the holiness and love shown by the Philippians. He rejoiced in the chance to share the Good News, even when it could have cost him his life. Paul rejoiced in the promise of Heaven. He rejoiced in the opportunity to put the Philippians’ worries for him to rest through his letter. He encouraged them, time and time again, to rejoice too, saying: Rejoice in the Lord always. I shall say it again: rejoice! Your kindness should be known to all. The Lord is near. Have no anxiety at all, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God. Then the peace of Christ that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. -Philippians 4:4-7   Sisters, St. Paul was doing all of this rejoicing from a prison cell, in danger of death. I Can Rejoice in All Moments, Too. I’ve never been imprisoned or in danger of death because of my Faith, but I sure let a toy-covered house that has gone a few days too many without seeing a vacuum cleaner get to me. I get too caught up in deadlines and emails and the pressure I weigh myself down with to rejoice in the blessing of work that I love. I let a neglected chore, a petty argument, or a Target-aisle tantrum steal the joy I usually find in my vocation as a wife and mother. Rejoice in the Lord, always. The house will be cleaned eventually. The work will still be there in the morning. I’ll blink and remember how ridiculously grateful I am that my college crush became my husband and that we have a precious little boy as a result. When I relinquish control and place my anxieties into the open hands of Jesus, St. Paul’s words ring so true, and I find the strength to rejoice too. Joy Does Not Depend on Our Past Something terrible happened to someone I love dearly a few months ago. While the road to healing will be a long one, I’ve been brought to tears because, in the midst of it all, she has still found moments of beautiful, restorative joy. “Joy does not depend on our past” is the phrase that I hope echoes in the hearts of anyone who believes that what they have done, seen, experienced, or barely survived has the power to steal their chance at joy forever. Pope Saint John Paul II is proof of this to me. He lost both his parents and only sibling by the time he was 19. He had a front-row seat to the horrors of the Holocaust and saw countless friends and neighbors led to their deaths. Under the control of a string of evil dictators, he watched his beloved homeland fall. That was Karol Wojtyla’s story. Had it been mine, I can’t honestly say I would have ever allowed myself to seek joy again. But thankfully, John Paul II knew better. He knew his joy didn’t depend on the horrors or heartbreak of his past; only on the truth of the Resurrection and the promise of Heaven. We who are Christians have a further cause for joy: like Jesus, we know that we are loved by God our Father. This love transforms our lives and fills us with joy. It makes us see that Jesus did not come to lay burdens upon us. He came to teach us what it means to be fully happy and fully human. Therefore, we discover joy when we discover truth--the truth about God our Father, the truth about Jesus our Saviour, the truth about the Holy Spirit who lives in our hearts. -Pope Saint John Paul II (source)   Joy Does Not Depend on Our Feelings When you Google “Saint quotes about joy,” the name you’ll see pop up the most frequently is a very familiar one: Saint Teresa of Calcutta. To most people, this probably isn't surprising. Mother Teresa founded the Missionaries of Charity! She knew exactly what her vocation and calling was! She was recognized and beloved by millions during her life! The ingredients for joy certainly seem to be there, don’t they? But, as we know now, Mother Teresa’s spiritual life was not marked by the consolation and encouragement that everyone assumed it was. On the contrary, she endured over fifty years of spiritual darkness. “Love—the word—it brings nothing. I am told God lives in me—and yet the reality of darkness and coldness and emptiness is so great that nothing touches my soul,” she once wrote to her spiritual director. And yet, these words are hers as well: Never let anything so fill you with sorrow as to make you forget the joy of Christ risen.   To Love is to Choose Saint Teresa may not have felt God’s presence, but she believed in Him, fiercely, wholeheartedly, and passionately. Her unwavering faith filled her with joy, even in the midst of the sickness and destitution she experienced daily in her ministry, and even in the decades of spiritual loneliness she endured. She fought the doubt that must have plagued her and trusted with all her heart that Jesus died for her, rose for her, and loved her, even when she felt nothingness in the moment. That heroic faith turned into joy, and that joy inspired (and continues to inspire) the world. But most importantly, that faith made her a Saint. When it seems most impossible to grasp, be unafraid to ask the Holy Spirit for more, more, and more joy. Especially in these months of winter, let’s pray for an outpouring of joy over the whole Blessed is She community. [bctt tweet="Finding Joy in the Midst of Winter (and Encouragement from the Saints) #BISblog //" username="lisajanelkirk"]

How I wish that all of us would hear God’s cry: ‘Where is your brother?’ (Gen. 4:9). Where is your brother or sister who is enslaved? Where is the brother and sister whom you are killing each day in clandestine warehouses, in rings of prostitution, in children used for begging, in exploiting undocumented labor? Let us not look the other way. -Pope Francis, Evangelli Gaudium A Global Problem Human slavery and trafficking is a global problem that demands our attention and our action. In 2016, the Global Slavery Index estimated that 45.8 million people were subjected to some form of modern slavery, and that number is rising each day. There are more than 5.5 million children trafficked worldwide. The U.S. Department of State shared that many of these persons are trafficked into the international sex trade, often by force, fraud, or coercion. Yet this crime also includes forced labor and involves significant violations of labor and human rights worldwide. Human slavery and trafficking is a $150 billion industry and the world’s third most profitable organized crime, following the drugs and weapons trade. It is the fastest growing criminal enterprise and makes more money than Google, Starbucks, Nike, and the NFL combined. Human slavery and trafficking has been reported on all continents and in all fifty of the United States. As Catholic women, it is time we give this matter our intentional and meaningful action so that we can put an end to it. Tangible Ways to Help Stop Human Trafficking Educate Ourselves and Others About Human Slavery and Trafficking The more we learn about this issue, the more we are able to understand what needs to change and what we can do to stop it. Here are some helpful websites: Fair Trade Winds Catholic Relief Services United States Conference of Catholic Bishops Toolkit Global Slavery Index Slavery Footprint Take Action My heart is deeply wounded and moved after researching human slavery and trafficking. Don’t wait to take action. Today, right now at this moment, is the perfect opportunity for us to assist our brothers and sisters in need. Even the smallest act helps, like making a purchase from a fair trade shop. Consider writing a letter to the editor, or contacting local, state, and federal lawmakers. I researched different businesses, companies, and institutions that have heroically committed themselves to helping the most vulnerable. Here are some ideas on how you can get involved: Host an anti-trafficking sale by selling fair trade products. Fair Trade Winds has some wonderful resources to help you get started! Purchase a “Turn On The Light” candle from Catholic Relief Services (CRS). CRS is working to eradicate human trafficking with 145 projects worldwide. With every purchase of this candle a donation is made to support CRS anti-trafficking programs. Urge Congress to combat human trafficking. Make a donation to the Catholic Fund Against Human Trafficking. Volunteer to rescue children from sex trafficking with Operation Underground Railroad. Read these fifteen ways you can help fight human trafficking by the U.S. Department of State. Pray the Divine Mercy Chaplet. Let Us Pray For Victims Each Day O Lord, you said you came: “to set the captives free.” In our world young men and women who are trafficked are modern day slaves. Help these young people not to lose hope. Give the grace for elected officials to grow in awareness of and to take active steps to eradicate this horror. Teach them not to prosecute the victims of trafficking but to bring to justice those who perpetrate this crime. May many join the efforts to stop trafficking and help the victims begin anew, filled with hope. We ask this in the name of Jesus. Amen. -Prayer composed by Sr. Veronica Piccone, MSC How will you pray for and act on behalf of those who are suffering from human slavery and trafficking today? [bctt tweet="Tangible Ways to Stop Human Trafficking #BISblog //" username="findphilothea"]

This year's Lent Journal, To the End, is a little different than journals in the past. It has the same heart, hue, and depthful sharing as years gone by. But the format this year particularly lends itself to sharing in a group as well as personal use. You’ve already read all about the details of our study here, but here’s the quick recap. Seven attributes of Jesus’ sacrificial love examined, one by one, each week One day of centering on the topic Two days of Scripture reflection Two days of reflective narratives One day for an examination Sundays for listening intently at Mass. The journal has a simple and clean design. It's linen bound and so beautiful. How to Host a Lent Group If you’ve always wanted to do something for Lent but never been able to, or started and not finished, this is your year, sister! We are here to help you along the way and assist you in finding and building up your women-tribe to grow in Christ together. One-on-one. Ask your mom, sister, roommate, coworker, neighbor, or dear friend to do it together. Check in with each other each week either over hot cocoa or just via text! See this as a chance not only to have an accountability partner, but also deepen a relationship by rooting it in our shared Faith. Reunite. Gather a group of friends from a particular season of life. Make it the thing that brings you together now that college has ended, you’re in a different office, new babies are off in pre-school, high schoolers have flown the coop. Maybe you’re no longer getting together for the shared experiences you once had, but doing the book together with weekly check-ins gives you a new experience to share. Zoom calls (free!) or google hangouts (also free!) are an easy video meeting. Or you can simply start a text thread! Connect. Does your small group of girlfriends already get together? Maybe it’s for Taco Tuesdays or Rosary Fridays, or even one of our Blessed Conversation studies. Why not propose doing the book as a group? We can all grow in love together! If you’re open to newcomers, sign up here so others in your area can hop in. We have put together a hostess guide for you with specifics on how to help a group do the study together. The key is to remember that you’re just providing the space and an open heart. The Holy Spirit will do the rest. Small Groups Near You Cleveland Heights, OH Nacogdoches, TX Omaha, NE Saint Paul, MN Vidalia, GA How to Host a Lent Gathering Your group could also gather together for this year's Lent Gathering, Remain. You can find all the information (including a hostess guide!) here. Happy Lent, sisters! May this journey be a fruitful one for you and your life of love in God. The thing about Blessed is She is that we want to help you grow in community and prayer. Don’t hesitate to reach out with questions! [bctt tweet="How to Host a Lent Group #BISblog #BISlent //" via="no"]