Yes to the Rosary, No to the Bad Boyfriend

I didn’t realize how much time I wasted during the day deliberating over choices until I paid closer attention to my decision-making process. Make my chai tea now or wait until after breakfast? And what should I have—that oatmeal my husband made a good hour ago that’s cold or eggs—but then I’d have to clean another pan. Maybe I should respond to emails, no, no, get the morning clean up done first, then work. You could find me still in the kitchen, arguing with myself, a good ten minutes into this blessedly short summer morning.

In today’s Gospel, Christ is instructing His disciples on being honest and not needing an oath to be people of their word. (Matthew 5:37) I hear that and feel it encouraging me also to make decisions and form healthy, holy habits so I don’t waiver and waffle and flippity-flop all throughout the day. Say yes to a morning prayer routine that’s feasible for this season of your life. For me, that’s probably reading the Blessed is She devotions while I nurse the toddler in the early morning followed by a series of GOD HELP and I LOVE AND NEED YOU throughout my day. For you, that may be saying yes to a Rosary on your commute instead of morning talk shows.

And maybe I say no to the third hunk of chocolate I dug out of the freezer because I don’t even really want it anyway and my body deserves to be nourished. Saying no to a third episode of The Office so I can read a little Scripture instead. Maybe you’re saying no to the lackluster boyfriend who doesn’t treat you with respect. Maybe you’re saying no to the lie that God isn’t interested in your mundane life.

Forming habits of saying yes and no takes the guesswork out of it for me. The threshold question is: does this bring me closer to God? When I know that answer, I know what I should do. I bet you have these answers inside, too.

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Simplify your decision-making process today: does it bring me deeper in my relationship with God? That’s the only question that really counts.

Nell O’Leary is a recovering lawyer turned blogger, speaker, and sewer of baby goods while tending to her husband and four kiddos in the great city of Saint Paul, Minnesota. She serves as Managing Editor for Blessed is She and can down a iced chai tea latte in no time flat. Find out more about her here. She is the editor of our Blessed Conversations Series.


  • Reply
    June 16, 2018 at 6:43 am

    Thank you so much! Just what I needed to hear today! Especially the question that simplified everything – does this bring me closer to God! I need simple 🙂

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      June 17, 2018 at 1:06 am

      I’m so so glad, Jenny!!

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    Annamarie V Erba
    June 16, 2018 at 7:09 am

    Love this! Thank you.

    • Reply
      June 17, 2018 at 1:06 am

      So glad it spoke to you!

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    ANONYMOUS w/ a J
    June 26, 2018 at 10:40 am

    Hi, I don’t mean to be rude but why do you guys need a rosary? The Bible never said to use it nor does it ever say to pray to the saints or Mary.

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      Olivia Spears
      June 26, 2018 at 1:35 pm

      Hey Anon! Great question. As Catholics, we believe that there is one mediator between God and man, Jesus Christ. We also see examples throughout both the Old and New Testaments of the people of God relying upon intercession with and for one another. Hebrews also emphasizes the “great cloud of witnesses” who surround us on our walk with Christ. Further, just as we ask one another to pray for us (for example, we ask for prayers for people who are sick, or we seek prayers when we’re struggling with something, etc), we believe the saints and Mary pray for us, too. Praying the Rosary isn’t necessary for our salvation; but the Rosary prayers highlight various points of Jesus’ life. It helps us meditate on the life of Christ and His salvation of the world. It serves as a powerful tool for prayer, kind of like a devotional or prayer journal on steroids 😉 If you’d like to read more, I’d recommend checking out this resource. You can search any topic you’d like and get much more eloquent answers with Scriptural references 🙂 I hope this helps a bit!

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