Impatience and Unanswered Prayers

Friend, I have become weary. I’ve been praying for something for more than half my life which, thus far, appears to have gone unanswered.

Over the years I’ve asked every Saint I could think of to intercede, I’ve tried to earn it by rooting out sin and striving for virtue, and I can’t tell you how many dating websites I’ve paid good money to help the Lord answer my prayer.

But still, nothing.

Now I know intellectually that God is faithful. That I am His beloved daughter. That I have a future full of hope because of Him. And I’ve received an embarrassment of riches when it comes to the Lord revealing His personal and powerful love for me. He has been such a good Father.

And yet . . . 

Here is this seemingly unanswered prayer. So despite God’s eternal patience with me, I’ve become rather impatient with Him.

I don’t want to have to keep bothering the Lord with my same old situation. I truly believe He heard my prayer the first time I prayed it (and every time since) and I know Him well enough by now to know that I don’t have to beg.

So why does Jesus ask us to persevere in prayer? Why give us the example of the persistent widow who, quite frankly, seems to annoy the judge into submission rather than move his heart? (Luke 18:1-8).

But when the Son of Man comes, will He find faith on Earth?

We keep on praying, not to change God’s mind, but to share the most vulnerable parts of our hearts with Him. To get to know Him for Who He really is and to be known by Him. Only then will we have the faith to believe that whatever comes, He is good and He loves us.

God isn’t an unjust judge, indifferent to our cries and concerns. He is all ears when it comes to your prayers and mine. He’s not waiting for a certain combination of words or just the right novena. He is not on the fence. He is listening and loving us all along. He’s only asking us to have faith.

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Make the leap with me to have faith in the face of seemingly unheard and unanswered prayers, sisters. Let’s leap into it together.

Beth Davis is a lover of Jesus, a recently retired youth minister, and the Director of Ministry Advancement for Blessed is She. She is passionate about teaching women how to develop an intimate relationship with Jesus and speaking hope to weary hearts. Her favorite things include being an aunt to her five fantastic niece and nephews, the Saint Name Generator, and whatever book she’s currently reading. You can find out more about her here. She is the author of our Blessed Conversations: God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit study found here


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    Annamarie Erba
    November 17, 2018 at 7:23 am

    Beth… You are amazing. I’ve always struggle with this scripture until now. I’m hugging you as it type this. You truly are were God wants you. Helping me, a faithless sinner. I love you and hope to hug you in person someday!

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    Ann-Marie Ulczynski
    November 17, 2018 at 7:34 am

    I heard an interesting homily on this gospel. It presented the idea that we are the judge, and God is the widow. God is the one who faithfully, unceasingly pursues us. We are the ones who are indifferent and eventually ‘worn down’ by his love and persistence. Kinda threw me for a loop when I thought of it that way.

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    November 17, 2018 at 8:09 am


    You are just a huge blessing to this community! And you definitely speak hope and truth to weary hearts. Thank you. I too have been praying a very, very long time for something…a really hard situation. It is hard to be patient…but I know our Lord hears these prayers and He loves me. What a beautiful gift you have for giving encouragement to other women . I count Blessed is She among what I am thankful for this Thanksgiving.

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    November 17, 2018 at 8:38 am

    Thank you for saying this exactly the way you did! I also feel weary and get impatient (maybe even angry and annoyed at times) praying for the same things. You are right,though; we are not trying to change God’s mind in all this but growing closer to Him. And that’s really what He wants for us, to be aligned with His will. Patience and trust can be so hard to learn. Thankfully, He never runs out of patience with us!

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    Laura Seibert
    November 17, 2018 at 10:18 am

    Beautifully said, Beth. Thank you for sharing your heart. I’m sure you touch so many by willingly being vulnerable. Joining you in prayer and trusting on God’s plan!

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    November 17, 2018 at 4:16 pm

    This is a good reflection. If you are praying to meet someone though, could it be that God is calling you to religious life instead? I mean, maybe he has a different vocation in mind altogether? Maybe your perfect match is not human, but God himself. Just a thought.

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    Lisa Murphy
    November 17, 2018 at 6:51 pm

    Amen! Preach it, girl. God has ordained you w a mouth that speaks for Him. Thank you for following so faithfully and for your sacrifices that come with that. It is badly needed and appreciated by at least this weary but joyful Jesus loving heart.

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    November 18, 2018 at 6:49 pm

    Thank you, Beth. I needed to hear this today. I too have been praying for something for a very long time, with many rosaries, novenas and holy hours. Today I found out my prayer has not been answered yet. The Lord has blessed me with many answered prayers and in wonderful ways as well. I can’t help be discouraged and doubt. Your words give me hope to know I’m not alone. He Loves us and He has a plan! Thank you. ❤️

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    November 19, 2018 at 2:43 am

    Again, it’s like you’re talking TO ME. Thank you for yet another reminder to surrender it all to God in prayer: the good and the bad, the joy and the pain. Bless you! xx

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